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May012005

Being Resourceful with my Intense Emotions

What can we do to bring vitality and resourcefulness back into our lives when we are feeling overwhelmed, depressed, anxious, or frustrated? 

The last few weeks have been very challenging for me.  Jim has been out of state with his family for several weeks now while we have been waiting to see if his father would be accepted for open heart surgery, the only option for his survival now.  My mother also went into the hospital again on the day my father-in-law finally had the surgery.  Her experience has been very different, and indicates a turn for the worse in efforts to heal the pressure sores that have kept her bed-ridden in a nursing home or hospital for 2 years, effecting her quality of life.  I worked very hard to be with what was happening, including my deep sadness some of the time for both our families.  Here is a process that has been very helpful for me when feelings of intensity would arise:

  1. Stop.  Break any reactive pattern in the moment by creating space and be with myself with kindness.
  2. Breath into the experience:  Follow the breath in and out a few times to become present to my sensory experience of what is happening right now.
  3. Affirm my integrity to respond with wholeness in a way that could be in harmony with everyone's well-being, especially my own.
  4. Notice each thought with curiosity, giving it space.  And then let each thought go and let the feelings be.  As the mind quiets, follow even the slighted change in feelings.
  5. Then ask:  What is my soul needing right now to feel whole and complete?  Focus on the need rather than any specific strategy to satisfy it. 
  6. Set an intention for fulfillment and see what ideas/strategies arise.  Commit to fulfilling this need with clarity and vigilance.  Let go of any specific strategy that does not seem to be working and make some space for other ideas/strategies to arise.
  7. Begin again as needed.
  8. Appreciate all the learning available along the way. 
  9. Remember, attention heals.

With care,
Jori 

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Reader Comments (2)

This is forgiving made easy! What a loving way of working things out.

I am always deepening in my self healing but you always put it so simple!

You are always cherished in my heart!!!
June 9, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterLorena Pinto
thank you . i happened to read this and my tears began to flow. thank you, Jori & blessings surround you
August 31, 2009 | Unregistered Commenterangela y

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